This equation has gone wrong....shoudn't it be corrected?

The only thing I find more complex than my own thoughts, is relationships. Closer the relation, more important it is. More important it is, more complex it is. And greater power it has to make us happy or unhappy. 

In order of importance, off course parents come first. My relationship with them is the oldest, closest and most powerful. It is an inherited, invisible bond....their smallest pain or unhappiness can break me into pieces. 

I am blessed to be born as a daughter to my parents. As equal opportunity parents; both me and my brother shared similar upbringing. There wasn't any preference. For my parents' there still isn't any preference. As a daughter, I can only reflect upon this from my own perspective. There comes a time in one's life (as a daughter) when we have to leave our parents and move into a new home. It is almost a universal phenomenon. Many things change after that. Much though we wish, it is not always possible to join our parents and share with them their happiness or even unhappiness.  Many a times, we become (not by choice) silent spectators to our parents quality of life!

So much is changing in the social set-up. More working couples. Greater focus on modern (as against traditional) upbringing of children. Hence....grand-parents are more dispensable....younger generation has lesser time and patience with older parents!!! 

There are many examples all around us. I have a very dear friend (she is a practicing Doctor). Off late my friend is feeling quite low and not her usual self. Reason; her old, ailing mother is being mistreated by her brother and sister-in-law. The poor old lady has no other place to live, except with her only son and daughter-in-law. My friend is doing her best to make things comfortable for her mother. But sadly she is facing many challenges from her own husband. He is not too keen on his wife he;ling her old mother. As a daughter, I can completely understand her situation and empathize with her. 

Many son's don't look after their old parents. Mainly because they are conditioned to think and act other-wise by their own spouses.  Similarly many daughter's do not look after their parent-in-laws, while they want to take good care of their own parents. There is a role reversal between son's and daughter's. Daughter's are becoming more like son's.....and son's want to remain only husbands'........dint I say it was all too complex!!!!

Son's must respect and take very good care of their parents. Daughter-in-laws must respect and take very good care of their parent-in-laws. This way daughter's needn't worry about their own parents and leave it to their own brother/sister-in-law. Daughter's must replicate the same and love care for their own parent- in-laws.

This equation has gone wrong. It has to be sight right, firstly in our own mind. As a son or as a daughter. Not difficult at all......all it needs is a shift in the way we approach relationships.

Lighter side of life :)

Yes, that's what I am focusing on these days. Taking life easy, treating it lightly and most of all taking myself easy and not too seriously.

Most of us take life too serious. Most of us take ourselves too serious. Most of us take our offices and jobs too seriously. All of us take our bosses very seriously! Not to forget...most of us take our spouses toooo seriously. Look at the poor fellow Bakhtiyar Irani in the "Bigg Boss" show....he cries and cries and cries...

Things which we ought to take seriously, we ignore. Such as our peace of mind, our happiness, our health and most important our relationships. 

Sometimes when I am in a lighter mood (as I am sure most of you are too), life sounds and feels so funny.....there are so many things to smile about and laugh about. 

Like the other day my husband was as usual sitting in front of his Laptop for hours and I got upset. He calmly and easily tells me..listen I do a lot of house work in the morning before you get up! Now it was my turn to laugh and ask him this questions, "Such as?"....well till the end of the day I did not get an answer from him....honestly I dint even expect one, because both of us know the reality. There is hardly any work that he does/can do/will do; early in the morning. I am sure all my female friends/and the male one's too will have similar experiences to narrate.

Maid.....mine is not to be seen for the past one week....some excuse that her mother has run away....so I am battling with a lot of house-hold work on my own. But like I said, I am trying to see the funny side of life here too. Maid -for-each-other...that's me and her! She comes and goes when she likes....it is her house after all! Takes leave when she likes! It is her house after all! Asks for extra money and hikes when she likes! It is her house after all! And most of us (women) dread the thought of being maid-less......so we succumb....and so we have gradually become maid of honor...no.. no...honor the maid types!

Bosses....thank god there isn't one in my life right now...the last experince was too hilarious/traumatic for me to take any more. I almost had a nervous break down in the last job held. Would rather watch the 10th repeat telecast of a stand up comedy show on TV, than spend time reminiscing about my past bosses (some of them were good too):)God too must be wondering about this creation....what sort of a being have I created? I am sure he find's no answer.

Now that I am at home these days, Television keeps me one sided company. What else is there to see but the sensational, 24X7 news channels...they are more like a reality shows, but lesser authentic. Our politicians are an eternal source of entertainment and humor. There is a Singh who is most unlike a king, and there is a King-maker who can't make anything...Manu Sharma's Parole and his parties, Koda's crores and convenient hospitalization,  Chappals and slaps....wow.....kya baat hai...

From the infinte pot-holes on roads, to the big hole in my pocket (caused by inflation).....irritating neighbors, shortage of water-supply....its all a lot of fun! See...the lighter side of life and keep medical bills under control.  


I know its difficult....but chill...take it easy.....smile....and remember....Jane bhi do yaaron....