Lighter side of life :)

Yes, that's what I am focusing on these days. Taking life easy, treating it lightly and most of all taking myself easy and not too seriously.

Most of us take life too serious. Most of us take ourselves too serious. Most of us take our offices and jobs too seriously. All of us take our bosses very seriously! Not to forget...most of us take our spouses toooo seriously. Look at the poor fellow Bakhtiyar Irani in the "Bigg Boss" show....he cries and cries and cries...

Things which we ought to take seriously, we ignore. Such as our peace of mind, our happiness, our health and most important our relationships. 

Sometimes when I am in a lighter mood (as I am sure most of you are too), life sounds and feels so funny.....there are so many things to smile about and laugh about. 

Like the other day my husband was as usual sitting in front of his Laptop for hours and I got upset. He calmly and easily tells me..listen I do a lot of house work in the morning before you get up! Now it was my turn to laugh and ask him this questions, "Such as?"....well till the end of the day I did not get an answer from him....honestly I dint even expect one, because both of us know the reality. There is hardly any work that he does/can do/will do; early in the morning. I am sure all my female friends/and the male one's too will have similar experiences to narrate.

Maid.....mine is not to be seen for the past one week....some excuse that her mother has run away....so I am battling with a lot of house-hold work on my own. But like I said, I am trying to see the funny side of life here too. Maid -for-each-other...that's me and her! She comes and goes when she likes....it is her house after all! Takes leave when she likes! It is her house after all! Asks for extra money and hikes when she likes! It is her house after all! And most of us (women) dread the thought of being maid-less......so we succumb....and so we have gradually become maid of honor...no.. no...honor the maid types!

Bosses....thank god there isn't one in my life right now...the last experince was too hilarious/traumatic for me to take any more. I almost had a nervous break down in the last job held. Would rather watch the 10th repeat telecast of a stand up comedy show on TV, than spend time reminiscing about my past bosses (some of them were good too):)God too must be wondering about this creation....what sort of a being have I created? I am sure he find's no answer.

Now that I am at home these days, Television keeps me one sided company. What else is there to see but the sensational, 24X7 news channels...they are more like a reality shows, but lesser authentic. Our politicians are an eternal source of entertainment and humor. There is a Singh who is most unlike a king, and there is a King-maker who can't make anything...Manu Sharma's Parole and his parties, Koda's crores and convenient hospitalization,  Chappals and slaps....wow.....kya baat hai...

From the infinte pot-holes on roads, to the big hole in my pocket (caused by inflation).....irritating neighbors, shortage of water-supply....its all a lot of fun! See...the lighter side of life and keep medical bills under control.  


I know its difficult....but chill...take it easy.....smile....and remember....Jane bhi do yaaron....

Realising the merit of what my grandparents said.....

As young children, my brother and myself grew up in a joint family. The house was always filled with people. Cousins of same age group to play with, uncles and aunts and our dear grand-parents. My grand-parents are no more there with us. They have long departed from this world. But their blessings are with us. And the love, care and most important their values and the simple wisdom which they have shared with us children. 

As adults we live in a nuclear family. Just me and my husband. And occasional visitors. 

With passing time, comes the realization. There was and is a lot of merit in the old family system. Joint families gave us so much comfort. Children like us grew up under the strong and steady influence of elders. Moms, aunts and elder sisters stayed home to cater to the family needs. Healthy food, clean environment, love, care and strong values. We were taught to share everything with others. 

There are many families today where both the parents step out to work. Nuclear families make it difficult for elderly parents to stay with their children. Many cases aged parents too want their freedom, hence they too prefer staying alone. Children are raised by semi-literate maid servants. Parents earn salaries in lakhs, yet the children are brought up by maids who are paid few thousands. Maids come from poor back-grounds, speak crude language and many of them have poor morals. 

One step further, there are couples where the women step out to work which requires a lot of travel. They are away from their homes for months, may be years too. So the husband and children are left to cater for themselves. Once again comes handy the maid. She cooks and keeps the house clean. At times may be mothers the children too. 

Men are getting married late, women are getting married later. Past 30' is fashionable and feasible. Result. More conflicts. Lesser sharing and poorer adjustments. More break-ups. 

Children too have too much of everything except parental care and attention. More toys, more clothes, more books....result: Unruly, adamant and demanding children. More pressure on parents. 

And many many more complications. 

The point I was trying to drive home is - having taken a break from my very busy and demanding career, I have more time to introspect. And thus came this realization. There was and is a lot of merit in what my Grand-parents said....about life and living. As a child I dint understand it. And may be dint appreciate it. But now, I am far more appreciative of the older, conservative approach to life. The time tested Indian way of living.

Living in light

Just as light kills darkness, faith kills fear. Faith is like light, and fear darkness. Religion teaches faith in God. Where there is faith, there is no fear. Just as where there is light, there is no darkness.Faith and fear are mutually exclusive. They can not co-exist. Just as light and darkness. Go with a faith that takes you away from fear, and not one that instills fear. Faith is God. God is light. Where there is light, there is no darkness.